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How to Get Your Husband to Listen to You

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It’s the end of the day, the kids are asleep, you’re beyond exhausted and you sit down to talk to your husband about something of importance (whatever it may be). As you talk, you realize that he’s not making eye contact with you and is completely focused on something else. Offended by his lack of attention, you stop talking and flat out ask: “Did you hear what I said?” — to which he replies: What??

Is this you?

If so I get it — OMG my friend, I most certainly get it. However, I’m going to help you feel more hopeful and share with you 4 thoughts on how to get your husband to listen to you:

1) Do you listen to him??

Do you? Think about it: women are busy doing it all – planning, caring, creating, scheduling, making, supporting, working, helping, rescuing, etc. etc. etc. That being said, are you so busy that you don’t even realize that the one thing you want your husband to do is the one thing that you’re not doing for him?? Hmmmm…

Just as you teach your child to treat others the way he or she wants to be treated, the same goes for you toward your husband. So if getting him to listen to you is of utmost priority, then pu-leeeez make sure that you’re listening to him.

2) Get active.

I’m not kidding. Any form of physical activity (ie: a hike or even hanging out with him while he’s golfing, etc.) will allow that kinetic part of his wiring to help him feel more inspired to not only talk to you, but to listen to you. So know your audience and get moving with him.

3) There’s a time and place

In many situations, timing is everything and knowing if and when your husband is able to actually listen is a key element. It’s pretty unlikely that you’ll gain his focus if you call him at work while he’s smack in the middle of a deadline. However, if you wait until he is home and has unwound from his day, then chances are higher that he’ll actually be able give you the attention you deserve.

4) If you want it, ask for it.

Communication breakdown happens in every relationship (if someone tells you otherwise then they’re either lying to your face or they’re flat out high). Therefore, at times your husband may not even realize that you not only need his undivided attention, but that you need him to hold your words with respect. Ladies, as I’ve said before: he can’t read your mind, so if you need him to understand what “listening” looks like to you, then be straight up and lay it out.

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